A growing number of people are challenging the idea that marriage has nothing to do with religion and that it is the state or the community that defines marriage. While it might appear so today in an increasingly secular society, the vast majority of ancient literature tells us otherwise!
A number of modern articles written about marriage agree that marriage is truly an ancient institution that pre-dates any recorded human history [2], yet these articles choose to ignore the original account of marriage particularly when it is recorded in religious based historical texts.
Dr. Ashley Montague (1959), a prominent anthropologist, wrote: “There are no societies in which marriage does not exist” [1]. If marriage developed in a random, haphazard, evolutionary fashion, one might expect that “marriage” would be found in some cultures but not in others. The evidence, however, simply does not support that view. The fact is… every written ancient marriage custom and ritual is based on the fact that marriage is between a man and a woman.
It is also evident that every ancient marriage custom and ritual invoked the blessings of a God, the heavens, deities or spirits. There is a general understanding in all cultures that marriage is somehow holy and/or spiritual and the joining of the man and woman must be blessed by heaven. This would seem to point to a common origin of marriage and its sacredness in the history of mankind.
The Christian and Jewish scriptures contains the earliest written account of the origin of marriage – that it was given to mankind by the Creator of the universe when He created the first man and woman. This account found in Genesis 2:18-22 (below) offers the best explanation for the sacredness and universality of marriage in all cultures and societies as it is at this precise point in time that the history of mankind converge.
Genesis 2:18-22 18And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”… 21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. 22 Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
It should be noted that neither Christianity nor Judaism claim that marriage originated with them because neither religions or people existed at the time of its creation. However, it is only within these scriptures that the interaction of God with mankind (including marriage) is faithfully recorded. And by default, the record of God’s interaction with his chosen people – the Hebrew/Jewish people and the Christian church.
Scripture also records the first corruption of marriage through a man named Lamech (a descendent of Cain) who takes on two wives (Genesis 4:19) and its subsequent erosion over time. By the time Abraham came into the biblical scene, everything that was good and holy in marriage had become vile and corrupted. Sex was no longer confined to the marriage bed of the husband and wife but had become a means of fulfilling all forms of sexual debauchery.
With the advent of Christianity through the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ, Christians in their desire to honour God in everything also sought to honour God in their marriages thereby restoring marriage to its original heavenly design in their communities. This design was restated clearly by Jesus in…
Matthew 19:4-6: “Haven’t you read . . . that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”
Jesus reaffirmed the reality of the original account of creation by God, our first parents and the sacredness of this institution found in Genesis 2:24: Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Together with the commandment “You shall not commit adultery,” God protects marriage and allows sexual intercourse only inside this marriage union (Eccles. 9:9)
Unlike the pagan world at the time of the early church, Christians stood out in their purity and their commitment to one spouse. This practice made the Christian communities the laughing stock of the pagan world. But that all changed when the emperor of the then known civilised world converted to Christianity.
China’s earliest dictionary – ‘Shuowen Jiezi’ (c. 58AD – 147AD) also have an account of the first marriage between the god Fuxi and goddess Nuwa (or Nugua). After creating the earth and all its creatures in seven days, they requested heaven to remove their deities in order that they might marry and establish the marriage institution on earth. While this account holds little relevance in western society, it nevertheless underscores the sacredness of this institution in the Chinese culture involving the deities and mankind at the beginning of creation. It also prescribes the marriage bond as a bond between a male and female.
The Islamic Quran which appeared in written form 1000 years after Christianity describes the creation of man and woman and their purpose of marriage – to multiply:
“And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in peace and tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): Verily in that are signs for those who reflect” (Surah 30:21).
“O Humans revere your Guardian Lord, Who created you from a single person created of like nature its mate, and from this scattered (like seeds) countless men and women. Reverence Allah through Whom you claim your mutual rights” (Surah 4:1).
Although it does not directly state that the ‘mates’ refer to a man and a woman it is inferred and taught by tradition that the “mates” consist of a man and a woman by reference to Surah 4:1 that “mates” must consist of a male and female in order to produce offspring.
While I agree some of these stories have morphed into myths, I believe the biblical account to be the true account and the others are simply variations of the original. Hence the accounts of creation and the purpose of marriage are incredibly similar despite the fact that these different races of people are found at the opposite ends of the globe.
The refusal of same-sex proponents to even consider these texts in their crusade to re-engineer marriage and society is clear evidence of research bias. Their incessant claims that marriage does not have a religious basis is inherently false since its foundations is found, and can only be found in religious historical text.
Aldous Huxley (1894–1963), the famous atheist philosopher gave his reason for his anti-God / religion stance: “I had motive for not wanting the world to have a meaning … the philosophy of meaninglessness was essentially an instrument of liberation, sexual and political.” [3]
REFERENCES
- Montague, Ashley S. (1959), The Cultured Man (New York: Permabooks), p.240.
- Ghose, Tia (2013) History of Marriage: 13 Surprising Facts
- Huxley, A., Ends and Means, 1937, pp. 270.